“We struggle with perfectionism in areas where we feel most vulnerable to shame, So we’re all comfortable saying, ‘I’m a little perfectionistic,’ which is code for ‘I do things really well’ — but I’m not comfortable saying I have shame. But perfectionism, what is that? I call it the 20-ton shield. It’s a way of…

“If you feel like you cannot move on from whatever you are going through at the moment, remember this: six months ago, or twelve months ago, or two years ago, you thought the same. You were in a position that threatened all that was hopeful within you; you did not think you would survive. But…